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The Royal Wedding

mznutterman — Fri, 29 Apr 2011 14:07:16 +0000

Alright, I’ll be the first to admit that I am one of those people. The ones who obsess about royalty, even though they have never been to Great Britain, they have no ties to the Royal Family and this wedding had no effect on me personally. But oh my gosh you guys?! It was AMAZING. I got up at 2am so that I could watch it live and then daydreamed that it “could have been me,” as I watched the Abbey fill with guest.

Then SHE came out of the Rolls Royce. The Duchess of Cambridge. And she looked amazing. Her dress was elegant and sexy all at the same time. Her hair was simple and the tiara the Queen loaned her was stunning. Her father looked so proud and nervous. And there was Kate…cool as a cucumber and gorgeous.

I had to watch this moment in history. I wanted to be a part of it, even if just through the TV. It was worth the loss of sleep…totally and completely worth it!

The Mother of all updates!

mznutterman — Fri, 29 Apr 2011 13:58:43 +0000

okay so I haven’t been updating as often as I would like. I have categorized these little bits of information according to date. I have another post that I want to do about the Royal Wedding but I’ll post that later.

1/23/2011

M is three years old and three months. She says the most wonderful and mind boggling things I have ever heard. One “M Moment” (as I like to call them) that happened recently involved potty training and an “incident” if you will. M was in the restroom going potty when I heard her call my name, “MOM. MOOOOOOOOM. RACHEL, come here now!” I walked in and saw her standing up with her legs squished together and an extremely worried look on her face. “What’s wrong Mson. Why are you yelling at me?” “Look,” she whispered, “it’s stuck and I need you.” It’s stuck I thought? What exactly was “it” and what was “it” doing? I looked between her legs and saw that a piece of poop was stuck in between her thighs. I started to laugh. She looked up at me with big blue eyes and said, “ Mommy I was goin’ potty and then I went poopy and I looked down and there was a poopy in my Bagina!” I started to laugh even harder. I don’t know what got to me more, the fact that she was standing there like a little adult and very matter-of-factly telling me what had transpired, or the fact that she just called her Vagina a Bagina.

I love M at this age. She is quick and witty and keeps me on my toes. I am going to miss having to share our time once her sister, Bella, arrives in ten weeks. TEN WEEKS. That is a scary thought. Me, raising two children. I have a fear that I am going to freak out. That I won’t be able to do it and then I’ll have failed at something new, and that is just a terrible feeling all around. I guess the only positive thing in this whole endeavor is the fact that this fear hasn’t given me enough time to worry about the other stuff that comes with a new baby: Midnight feedings, bottles, breast feeding, diapers, money, work, daycare, siblings….Yeah, to say that I am a tad bit worried is an understatement in my book.

1/24/11

Today M told me that she was acting up at home because she had a hard day at school. She goes to daycare/preschool for eight hours a day. Her facility is a place where they play, finger paint, go to chapel on Wednesdays and just plain have fun. And SHE had a hard day? I love the mind of three year olds. It’s rather refreshing and self-absorbed.

She is also struggling with her socks. If the line is on her toes she has a melt-down. If the socks cannot stretch above her knee, it’s a melt down. No black stockings? Melt down. Today her teacher said she had a very hard time with her socks and they had to take her shoes off and adjust her socks numerous times. Splendid. It appears that I have created a mini-neurotic princess who has sock issues. Thank god she is cute or she might end up being one of those children.

2/09/11

M is on week eight of wearing her black high heeled shoes. She received them the day we went to the Nutcracker, her first ballet, and she has not taken them off since. At first I would fight her to wear other shoes. Its wintertime and they aren’t exactly the most beneficial shoes. However, she loves them dearly and just can’t fight her every day. She wears them with jeans or dresses and the socks that she wears with them are another issue as well. There cannot be a line on the toe. There cannot be a wrinkle across the heel or top of the foot. They must reach her knees either because they are knee-highs or because she stretches them until they are. I love my little princess but one of these days those black shoes will no longer fit and I can only imagine the repercussion that will follow!

(Note: She ended up wearing these high heels for a total of 15 weeks and then decided one day that they were not her favorite shoes anymore. She told me she wanted leather boots that go “clip-clop.”

2/12/11

Some of M’s more famous phrases that I want to remember are as follows:

Lasterday: yesterday, last year, last month or any day in the past.

Tika: Imaginary friend or name of any of her many baby dolls.

3/6/11

Today M asked me if she could go to my work when she is all grown up. Of course I said yes, but then she continued to tell me that she would need new high heels. I was looking at a Blog that I read on a regular basis and across her header she has a picture of about 50 pairs of high heels. Mad saw the picture and said, “See momma? I need to have all of THOSE shoes.” She is such a princess!

3/15/11

The other day I was getting M ready for a bath and asked her to strip down. She was naked, waiting for the water to fill up and I noticed that she was dancing in a back and forth motion and holding her crotch. I asked her what she was doing and she quickly replied, “ I’m dancing with my bagina.” I love that she can’t pronounce her “v’s” yet and that she likes to dance. Lord have mercy, this kid……

3/19/11

M’s baby sister Bella was born today. M loves her dearly and I can tell that they will be close- at least I hope that is the case. They are opposites of one another in regards to their looks. M told me that she has yellow hair like Sleeping Beauty and Bella has black hair like Snow White. I told her that was because they are both princesses. I am so in love with them both.

3/23/11

Decided to take M to school today. She is really struggling with the Big Sister role. We have had a lot of tantrums and indignant behavior but I know that this will pass eventually. I asked her why she was acting so naught and she told me, “Because I want attention.” It floors me that she is so smart and yet so manipulative. I love her and I am struggling to find a way to help her deal with my new role and her new role. Daycare is very supportive and they are helping us work through this transition. My mom is helping so much with her visit this week. I am grateful.

4/29/11

This isn’t so much about M is it is about today. Prince William married Kate Middleton today. I got up at 2am so that I could watch the wedding live. I didn’t go out of my way too much because Bella woke up then for a feeding anyhow so it really worked out. M did learn to button this month. On the 26th she buttoned up her Pajama shirt all by herself. I was SO proud! She has been getting better about the jealousy issues and goes to school everyday, unless I decide to keep her home that day. It helps me bond with Bella and also gives M some normalcy. What a beautiful day it turned out to be- love is in the air!

Time For an Updated I see

mznutterman — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 15:44:20 +0000

Good lord I haven’t updated since November? Where have I been? Oh yeah, busy. Well fasten your seatbelts kids, here come the bullet points:

Moved into our house about two weeks ago. It’s heaven on Earth. You will never appreciate having your own space until you have to give up that luxury and move back in with your parents for six months. That is a LONG six months when you have five people and two pets in a three bedroom home. I’m glad it’s over and I’m glad we are making our way to the next chapter of life.
Speaking of making our way, we have done quite a bit to the house in order to get it ready. Z and my FIL put in a new water heater, refurnished the wood floors that we discovered while pulling up nasty old carpet. Cleaned and cleaned and then cleaned some more, and now we finally have everything moved in and are in the process of settling in. It’s a good feeling.
M is doing well. She had dental surgery back in December and since then she has really been doing well. Although I have turned into a fanatic regarding her teeth and at times, have been called “overbearing.” I don’t agree with that at all, but then again, I was the one in the hospital with her while she had surgery. By myself. It’s a hard thing to do when you are having to watch your child be scared and suffering through anesthesia and doing it alone. Especially when you are pregnant and your emotions are already across the board. Lets just say there was a moment in the recovery room where M and I were both bawling, her because she was in pain and me because there was nothing I could do. The nurse brought both of us grape popsicles and we immediately felt better, lol.
Speaking of pregnancy, I am 29 weeks today. It’s really flying by and I just hope that I make it to my due date of April 3rd, only because I will be in a class that doesn’t end until April 4th. Keep your fingers crossed that this kid is as stubborn as M was, and refuses to come on her due date!
School is going well. I passed my first set of state exams, and I’m in the second of three sections in my teaching programs. I’m set to graduate in spring of 2012 which really seems far away, but it’s going to be worth it. Lets just hope that I am able to maintain my high grades and enthusiasm when I have two children!
Things with Z and I are pretty good right now too. He is not happy with his job but the opportunities here are few and far and you really have to keep your eyes and ears open. He is looking at one other job and we should know something later this month so hopefully that pans out.
Other than all of this? Not much has been going on. Just living life and trying to maintain. Day by day essentially. Anyway, I’ll try to keep up better with this blog instead of checking in every two months!

Do People Actually Read THIS???

mznutterman — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 18:24:21 +0000

Sometimes I sti back at my computer and think….does anyone really read this? All I do is write about my life, what is going on and what I’m up to. I think it’s your pretty basic hum-drum stuff, but I wonder if it comes off as interesting to other people. I like to read about other people’s so called “boring” lifes and I feel that some of the things they do on a daily basis are in fact interesting. Does anyone think that about me? I wonder about that sometimes. I also wonder why I even do this blog sometimes.

I can’t type out all the things I’m actually feeling at times becuase people I know in real life read this and -gasp- what if they found out that I had REAL feelings???? I guess I have done it before, but I’ve marked it private. I have really considered keeping this blog for records sake so I can go back and see where I was personally, but emotionally I think I need a new blog. Something no one knows about.

I guess I’m just left wondering about a lot of things these days, and the blog is one of them….

19 Weeks

mznutterman — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 03:10:42 +0000

Boy does time fly, especially during the holiday season. So lets dive in shall we? I’m 19 weeks pregnant and nearly half way there, woohoo! I can’t believe it. I’ve been taking pictures of my progress but I’m not sure if I’m going to post them online. Just too private in my opinion. I don’t know, we’ll see….As for my emotional and physical state? I’m tired. I’m always tired, this is not new, but it seems like 8pm rolls around and I’m dead on my feet. Not to mention I have M to take care of, A new house to clean and renovate so we can move into (which Z is doing most of the work at, and that means I’m at the Inlaws with M alone. Fun times people.) I also have my homework which is SO fun these days. I’m just tired. Woe is me. Physically I’m doing well. I’m much healthier this pregnancy and I’ve gained about 17 lbs. which I’m not too worried about considering I gained about 50 lbs when I was pregnant with M. I’m really trying to be concious about what I eat this time, but I have to say that the following foods are my favorite so far: Apples, Chili, Apples, Fruit of any kind really, Apples (lol get the idea?), 100 calorie popcorn from Blast o’ Butter (YUM!), and milk duds. Oh how I LOVE ME SOME MILK DUDS. I also was craving glass after glass of milk early on in my pregnancy which is strange for me considering I don’t care for milk all that much and really have to force myself to drink it. For a while there I detested soda of any kind and that was great because I was trying to cut back anyway, but lately? Coke is to die for. Especially from McDonalds. SOmething about Their Coke. I don’t know man. Pregnancy is weird. Anyway, that is where I’m at these days. Pregnant, tired and fat. The luxurious life really.

Happenings

mznutterman — Thu, 04 Nov 2010 02:48:47 +0000

First the bad news. I had to put my cat Einstein down. He just wasn’t acting right. Drinking excessive amounts of water, urinating all over the house and eating like a pig. I finally took him into the vet after two weeks of this behavior and found out he had a terrible ear infection and Diabetes. I couldn’t afford the insulin injections and the special diet needed to nurse him back. And there was no guarantee that he would ever recover. It was such a hard decision but he was very uncomfortable and I couldn’t let him suffer. We had a funeral and it turned into a ilfe lesson for M. Z and I explained where animals go when they get sick ( heaven of course) and that he just wasn’t happy here and needed to go to a place where he could be healthy. Of course M piped in that Einstein was in HEaven with “Jesus and Minnie Mouse.” Ummm…sure. I love the mind of three year olds.

In other news, M turned THREE. She had a great bday party and played with all of her friends. She ate way too much cake, got too many presents to mention and passed out at 6 o’clock! A success as far as I am concerned.

Oh and one more thing before I go, we found out that we are having another girl! M is excited for her new baby sister and can’t wait to meet her. That’s it for now. More later!

Branching Out

mznutterman — Sun, 17 Oct 2010 03:11:38 +0000

I have had the same people on my blogroll for a few years now and I’m thinking of adding…..the only problem is that I’m not sure where to find new blogs. I know that I can randomly search through hundreds of thousands of blogs, but I just don’t want to.

In fact, I really need to update by blogroll because some of those people have gone off into Never Never Land and the links are no good. Anyone have some suggestions of blogs that they absolutely love??? I’m needing some new reading material.

The Ped Egg

mznutterman — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 02:02:17 +0000

I bought this thing and guess what? It DOES NOT WORK. I was so dissapointed. Here I was sitting on the edge of the bathtub, rubbing away at my sore and calussed feet and nothing happened. Now granted, it did shave some skin off, but not all of it and I was not left with deliciously smooth feet as the commercials would suggest.

So the question begs to be asked: What have you all bought that ended up being totally dissapointing?

Ain’t that some shit….

mznutterman — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 01:00:54 +0000

So I’m trying to talk to Z today about his job and he has the odacity to tell me not to worry about it. He isn’t happy at the job he is at and he said that he should have just stayed in Montana where he was making good money. Well guess what? I was not happy there. It doesn’t matter that you were making good money, our marriage was basically on the brink of divorce and shit was about to hit the fan. But you know what? If you are SO freaking happy in Montana then feel free to go back there. Alone. I’ll make sure to get as much child support out of you as possible. Here I am pregnant, living in a town that I am not familiar with, surrounded by HIS family which surprisingly is on my side and thinks he is being an ass. And there he sits, pouting because he doesn’t like his damn job. Welcome to the real world buddy. At least you HAVE a job. Maybe I’m being oversensitive, maybe not. I’m pretty sure that as a couple, we should discuss potential career changes as a family, right? No, not in this family apparently. He said I have no say in what he does as far as his career is concerned. Oh really? I don’t know how I feel about this. divorce just looms over my head. I don’t want to be doing the single mom thing with two kids, but I can’t be with someone who treats me like shit all the time. My opinion means nothing to him. I have no say in anything he does and he doesn’t seem to think there is anything wrong with that. I don’t get it. Back it January when I told him I wanted to leave him he cried and begged me to stay and here we are nearly 9 months later and it’s back to the same old bullshit. I guess some people never learn.

It’s been a while

mznutterman — Sun, 03 Oct 2010 21:39:23 +0000

A post in bullets because I feel like it:

I am 14 weeks pregnant and I’m really starting to show. I feel so fat it’s not even funny. There is nothing worse then trying as hard as you might to fit into your normal clothes only to be discouraged that, in all truth? They will not fit!
I am SO stressed about gaining weeight. I lost 15 lbs in the begining because I was so sick and now that the doctor has put me on medication I have gained that back plus a few lbs. I hate people that are pregnant and look amazing. Bitches.
M is so excited about her baby. We talk about it all the time and I can only hope that the excitement continues even after the bab is born.
We are still living with the in-laws. It’s going on three months now and I’m about to go ape-shit on someone’s ass. I can only take so many more snide little comments and “hints” before I fling a spoon full of mashed potatoes across the dinner table.
In addition to still living with the ‘rents, the house that we are supposed to close on has been pushed back because the appraiser said the siding was made of asbestos ( which has not even been tested mind you.) and he lowered the value of the home. The overall value is still more then we are paying so that’s not the issue but I don’t know how many lenders are really wanting to take on a house that may or may not have asbestos siding.
Work is still going pretty well, but my coworkers daughter has to have surgery in a few weeks which means that I will be by myself for three or four days. I’m nervous that I will get a job that I either don’t know how to do or that I run into issues with and can’t fix. The best part though, is that the Doctor I work for will be out of town and that means that my work load should not be as heavy as it usually is. That is ALWAYS good news.
Z and I are getting along fairly well but I’m on edge more and I tend to snap at him pretty easily. He is trying, but he is still lazy, smelly and annoying. Typical guy I guess. It just gets to me more now more then ever seeing as I’m “so sensitive these days.” Yeah well you carry around a fetus, work full time, take care of a 2 1/2 year old, clean, cook and listen to YOUR parents bitch all the time and let me know if you’re in a great mood all the time.
Have I mentioned it’s a little tense at casa de Nutterman lately?
School is overwhelming and I’m really trying to wrap my head around doing all this work once I have two children. I’m really going to have to buckle down. I hope I can stay focused and keep on course. I’m like the Little Engine That Could, ” I think I can, I think I can…”
I miss having friends. I have one at work that I truly feel is a great friend, but neither one of us has a lot of time to really hang out. I haven’t really met any other girls here since I moved and not having a lot of friends around is kind of hard.
I’m headed back to Arizona to see my mom and dad for Thanksgiving. It’s been a year and I have REALLY missed them. I also get to see my siblings and niece(hopefully) and nephew. It will be nice to have a good old fashioned dinner.